We all want and need love. We want it from the people we feel we don’t get it from, the people that we should get it from and then from those future relationships we just haven’t had yet. No matter how much we try to cover up that need, it persists. Why is that and why is love one of the most challenging things to receive?
Let’s start with that word, RECEIVE. This one single word is the issue. Just because you want love, doesn’t mean you can receive it. Think about when someone compliments you or tries to give you a hug or some loving gesture you’re not expecting. What do most of us do? Back away. Not right away but there’s the awkward moment of it not being too long and if it is, we worry that it’s not socially acceptable. It feels strange for someone to love us just because. I, I wasn’t prepared, or I didn’t know them well, or I wasn’t expecting that.
This is how love works. Ask, and you shall receive. But not if you don’t do the receiving part. It also works this way with spirit. As the love comes in, our response is to push it out somehow. To breathe in really deep because the heart space is expanding and trying to let in this love. It is… uncomfortable!
Love is a Raw Creative Energy
Now we’re on to something. Yes, receiving love is uncomfortable. It changes you. It turns your circumstances too. If you are ready for love no matter what place it comes from, you are also prepared for this change. If it’s a partner, well, you’ll be re-thinking living circumstances, how you spend your Friday nights and whether you have room for another person in your life on a regular basis.
These changes are meant to be uncomfortable. They shape you and help you to hold a vibration you were not capable of before. Your heart brings it in energetically, and then this raw love energy literally takes form in your reality through physical changes such as a new career, relationship, friendship or how you concern yourself. Are you ready to give up disrespectful behaviors? To hold yourself accountable to the love you say you want?
The external rewards come only when you’ve begun the exercise of letting love in, in small ways. Like taking the compliment, you are given, smiling back at the stranger in the grocery store or saying yes to a date or new friend. Being willing to go with the changes that occur. This doesn’t mean to make decisions without thinking of course. But do allow it in smaller ways.
How Was Love Modeled Growing up
Taking a look at how love was modeled to you as a child is essential. My mother could not receive. She would push me away immediately when I tried to hug her. She didn’t even notice she was doing it. She also got angry very easily over small things as a way to keep out the love that might occur if she just let that little thing go. I found myself doing similar things as an adult. I still do but not without awareness. I’m acutely aware when I am pushing out love and really work to let it in from the most unlikely of places.
Think about how love was shown to you. How did your mother receive it from the world around her? How did she teach you to receive? Was it approached with fear, apprehension or distance? What was your father’s role of love? Did your extended family show love? And not just the expected family hug. Did they engage with you? Really care when holding a conversation or interacting with you?
My relationship with Raina taught me a lot about how love works. It felt like creating a loving relationship with myself. In fact, that is what it was and continues to be. Although Raina is here for so much more than just me, one of her primary purposes was to help me love myself so that I could let in my mission with her.
Without that, nothing I do would have held any weight. I would never have had enough to give anyone else. It started with me letting go of unhealthy behaviors and making decisions that were loving for me regardless of whether anyone else “knew” or could see it. It was no longer about anyone but me. I am human and will always be working on this love reception thing, but for now, I’m happy I practice it.
Ask yourself what you can let go of today that isn’t loving and also what you could be doing in the world if you felt more loved. Then begin creating it for yourself. Give yourself something that can bring in more love from the ethers such as music, painting or meditation.
I have people that love me now, but the love I allow from my higher self and spirit is the love that created the physical people I receive it from. Not the other way around.
Let us know how your relationship to love is blossoming!
Trance Channel, Clairvoyant Healer and Spiritual Teacher, Lori Camacho, has been serving others with her gifts of clairvoyance and vibrational healing abilities since 2003. It was in 2007 that Lori began to spontaneously vocalize Raina, the wise consciousness she had memories of communicating with as a child. Together Lori and Raina have created many workshops, classes and writings.